) So, just what is the common denominator here, then? Does your profile speak to who you are without expressing any negativity about you or your potential dates/matches — or prior romantic partners?There’s virtually no better way to repel great matches than by filling a profile with overt negativity toward the opposite sex, online dating, the dating process, or relationships in general.Maybe they’re a couple of years older than you hoped, or he’s not quite as tall as you’d like…sticking doggedly to a “type” when your goal is to find a long-term relationship is a recipe for failure.Now, this isn’t to say that you should date someone you do not find at all attractive or who lives 1500 miles away just because they might be a wonderful person.In my role at e Harmony, I’ve talked with and observed conversations between thousands of singles via e Harmony’s Facebook page, Twitter, and in other social media outlets and online forums. ) the many ways in which we online daters are our own worst enemies and play a critical role in our own of success.In the interest of seeing more of us succeed in our quest for love, I am putting it all out on the line — pouring my heart out to share these observations and tips with you.
If someone closes you out as a match, all it means is that they weren’t the one for you.Consider each question and answer with what IS true, vs. It’s absolutely critical that you be completely honest in answering those questions, as THAT is the basis on which we match you with other singles on our site.To illustrate just how important this is, I’ll share a story: I recently had the good fortune of being on set for our new e Harmony commercial shoot, and talked with our couples.) but we’ve reached the point where we live so much of our lives online that it’s SMART to employ technology to help you find a happy relationship.Some of us go into it assuming it’s not going to work, that it’s going to be a waste of time (and often money) and that we’ll end up ultimately disappointed with the outcome — and still single, to boot.