I’m going to wait for the man who accepts me just the way I am and if he doesn't come along then I'll be just as happy. The truth was out there plain as day but, as we do with so many of our beliefs, I simply refused contrary evidence. I didn’t owe anyone anything, so no one was the boss of me. I have a lifestyle of my choosing, see my girlfriends when I want, and maintain my own priorities and routine. I don’t owe anyone anything, and no one is the boss of me. I’m trying to learn to love sailing even though I could have happily lived my entire life without it. Why would you pick a man who doesn’t admire your independence and honor your ability to get what you want in life?
One of those myths is that your fierce independence and being set in your ways keeps you from finding love. Until I became a bride at 47, I planned everything in my life, supported myself, made all my decisions, and created the lifestyle I wanted. And, yes, I do check with my husband before I made a big life decision. There are things you love about yourself and your life, and you shouldn’t give those up.
Remember, you’re with a man whom you respect and admire. The bottom line is that your fear of losing your independence may have a lot more to do with you than the men you are blaming. Bobbi Palmer is The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40.
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I rarely relied on my family and friends in times of need, and learned to bottle things up.
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But when times got really tough, I realized being independent does not mean you have to rely only on yourself.
I was taught to live by Sikh morals and values, and our faith teaches us to be warriors, so sometimes expressing my feelings and asking for help was not always the first route taken.