Use the time to better yourself and heal.”Los Angeles therapist Stan Tatkin says you should be glad for the new couple.
And if you can’t find that gladness, as the saying goes, “Fake it till you make it.”He agrees with Concepcion that you shouldn’t rush into another relationship just because your ex has found another person.
It could be that you’re relieved the ex is in a new relationship if you did the breaking up because your guilt is assuaged and you can feel freer to move on.
This way, when you’re ready to meet new singles, you will feel confident — a quality that both genders seek. You won’t gain strength that comes from being on your own.“That person is your ex, and whatever negative things plagued your relationship, you no longer have to deal with them.Repeated negative self-talk about your ex will only keep you mired in the past and reinforce just how incompatible the two of you were.”One of the drawbacks of the social media era is the self-torture you can inflict.In any case, don’t define yourself by your ex.“You’re much more than a former girlfriend or boyfriend, says New York psychotherapist Jonathan Alpert.“You’re a friend, sibling, son, daughter, colleague and someone’s future partner.“Don’t complain too much about your ex,” he adds.